Cushioning

What is cushioning in dating?

Definition

Maintaining flirtatious contact with multiple potential romantic interests while in a relationship, as a backup plan or ego boost.

Why it matters

Cushioning undermines relationship commitment and trust. It can lead to emotional cheating and prevents full investment in your current relationship.

How to handle it

If you are cushioning, evaluate your current relationship satisfaction and commitment level. If you are being cushioned, address the behavior directly with your partner.

Examples

Flirty texting with exes while dating someone
Keeping dating apps active in a relationship
Maintaining romantic options just in case

Composed insight

Research indicates that 23% of people in relationships maintain cushioning contacts, leading to 3x higher breakup rates within one year.