Paperclipping

What is paperclipping in dating?

Definition

When an ex randomly pops up with a seemingly innocent message about something nostalgic or shared from your past relationship, testing the waters for reconnection.

Why it matters

Paperclipping can disrupt your healing process and new relationships. It often comes without clear intentions about what they want.

How to handle it

Respond based on your actual interest in reconnecting, not just nostalgia. Ask for clear intentions if you are considering re-engagement.

Examples

Remember that coffee shop we used to go to? Saw it today and thought of you
This song came on and reminded me of our trip
Random reference to inside jokes or shared memories

Composed insight

Analysis shows paperclipping attempts increase by 340% during holiday seasons and major life transitions, often triggered by loneliness rather than genuine interest.